Miscarriage after miscarriage – a lonely journey of loss and hope for women who have lost their babies

“Although the diagnosis of recurrent pregnancy loss can be quite devastating, it can be helpful for the physician and patient to keep in mind the relatively high likelihood that the next pregnancy will be successful,” said Dr Seng.

“Overall, the prognosis for recurrent pregnancy loss is encouraging. Even with as many as four to five prior losses, a patient is more likely to carry her next pregnancy to term than to have another loss,” he added.

Nonetheless, whether to persist in this journey or not is a personal choice. “To me, motherhood is such a beautiful journey, so I didn’t want to give up. For others like me, I’d say, don’t be afraid of failures, because this failure may just bring you a step closer to your next successful pregnancy,” said Grace. 

“Having said that, it really depends on your desire to have a child in the first place. Some women I know give up after one miscarriage because of the stress, and I understand why as well,” she added.

I also came to a point where I told myself that if I’m not meant to have a child in this lifetime, so be it. Having tried so hard to have a baby, I realise through this journey that the very breath that we have is precious and there has to be a purpose and a journey they we have to complete. Treasure your life. With or without a child, there are many things to live for,” she said.  

*Names have been changed