On social media, rarely does the commonplace get reflected, much less the annoying and repulsive. If we take what we see there while whole, perfect images of love and seeing, our understanding of relationships can be twisted, airbrushed and impossible.
Instead of what we believe we should want or value, our own beliefs and priorities change to what we actually want or value, such as” This is what my partner should do to make me feel special” or” These are the kinds of places my partner should take me on dates.”  ,
Apparently the answer to this in a modern era where our website presence is extremely staged and performed for a virtual audience is to appear deeper inside and consider what really matters to us.  ,
STOP AIMING FOR Excellence
Just a few years ago, our romantic lovers were confined to a smaller pool of companions from the physical locations we occupy: School, work, our communities, and so on.  ,
Now, online dating websites such as applications have expanded our range of options rapidly. We then have the ability to browse through hundreds of information at once, persons we might not have otherwise met. They don’t actually have to be in the same city or country.  ,
Optionality is alluring, but it also creates the impression that there is always someone much “out there.” As a result, we become less willing to compromise and undertake.
Another friend, who has spent the last few years in various relationships, says that whenever something goes wrong, it always seems like there’s something wrong with the guys they meet.” There’s always something wrong with me, or a small character flaw I can’t get previous,” she says.
Many others in our era agree with this statement: We are no longer as accepting of flaws in our prospective partners, and our resolve to resolve conflicts with our partners is declining.
More than riding out the storm together, it’s much easier to end the relationship and go in seek of the “next best item” on the horizon.  ,
However, connections are meant to be worked through, never arrived at. Couplehood is a dialogue of give and take, of benevolence and sacrifice.
Nothing is perfect, and no one can ever be fully satisfied. Alternatively of seeking beauty with a “get it right the first time” culture, what if we acquired a “work items out as we go along” culture instead?  ,