How Max Maeder’s parents Hwee Keng and Valentin first met almost 30 years ago

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BRINGING UP YOUR KIDS, BY THE BETWEEN OF YOU HAVE LEARNED A LOT OF ABOUT YOURSELF? &nbsp,

VALENTIN: &nbsp, ( Smiles ) She will say I am a great father … Husband… I’m not so sure ( laughs ).

HWEE KENG: He is extremely patient which is good for the kids. They owe a lot of their self-assurance to him.

MAX AND HIS Sisters, KARL AND VALENTIN JR, ARE HOMESCHOOLED. A Day HAVE YOU EVER DID YOU CHANGE YOUR PATH? &nbsp,

HWEE KENG: Unlike him]Valentin], I was always on the point of enrolling them into college and questioning if I did the right thing.

I faced a lot of challenges, especially when I was often asked by both sides, his household and me, to place my kids in a normal class.

Therefore, they actually gave it to me.

THAT MUST HAVE BEEN TOUGH. &nbsp,

HWEE KENG: &nbsp, If both me and him had doubts, we would n’t have gone ahead with homeschooling our kids.

I think it’s pretty standard when you do something other than agreement. Because there is no standard, you will always have questions.

All was uneasy, including myself, but I’ve learned that if you sit in pain for a while, as Max has said, you’ll shock yourself with what you can do.

VALENTIN: &nbsp, Every kid is different, and, in our case, we are lucky to see that they did n’t need much structure.

I did say training involves a lot of love and good illustrations, and that happens to a big amount, within the family.

WAS MAX AN EASY CHILD TO RAISE? &nbsp,

HWEE KENG: &nbsp, The easiest!

VALENTIN: &nbsp, We could n’t have asked for an easier time ( laughs ).

Just do n’t &nbsp, squeeze&nbsp, him. When he was about 15 month old, I attempted to force him to do something, which turned out to be very painful and painful. I realized from that point on that I would n’t try to force them to do something.

HWEE KENG: &nbsp, I think our kids enjoy their independence. You ca n’t make them do something they do n’t want to. Yet Max who is generally agreeable.

They have our body in them! ( Guffaws )

HWEE KENG, YOU MENTIONED MAX IS VERY KIASU]AFRAID OF LOSING OUT]. CAN THAT BE THE MOST Taiwanese Character? &nbsp,

HWEE KENG: &nbsp, You tell me! He has a strong sense of competition, and since he was a young child, he disliked the sense of losing.

You know what … he hates to lose, more than he likes to win ( laughs ).

It&nbsp, is&nbsp, kiasu. Not in the same manner as registering for a queue.

HOW ABOUT KARL, YOUR SECOND SON? &nbsp,

HWEE KENG: &nbsp, He is strongly independent! ( Laughs )

VALENTIN: &nbsp, Even at six months, he would n’t allow me to hold him if he did n’t want to.

I swear that his first words were,” Let me down”!

HWEE KENG: &nbsp, He likes to do his own things and you ca n’t cram his style.

I remember trying to beat him, and he went,” Mum, you do n’t need to beat me”. Then he ran]to experience ] the walls.

Again, when I attempted to switch him in the bathroom, I was terrified and went to the bathroom to open the door.

He merely said:” Mum, if you want to switch me]in], choose close the door”.

AT EVERY TURN, HE SURPRITES YOU. &nbsp,

HWEE KENG: &nbsp, He again asked,” You want to use the wood, you want to use the pulley. When did you product me like a cow next?”

VALENTIN: &nbsp, We realised immediately we did get much further with the sweet and loving method.

HWEE KENG: &nbsp, The softer you are with him, the better the benefits. &nbsp, The more you run after him, the more he runs ahead.