Commentary: I’m dying. It’s okay if friends don’t know how to be there for me – just be there

They set aside&nbsp, the mental capacity, time and resources to help a friend in need- to get current, to hold nervous conversations about the transitory nature of life, and to also find joy in these shared moments.

At a time when everyone is stricken with their own wants, it’s about what we are willing to give of ourselves. I notice how many my companions have sacrificed for me and how they have no expectations of what they can receive.

I now have a newfound appreciation for the saying,” To live is to provide, and to offer is to live”. Despite my natural limitations, I have discovered that I too, is also give- through my words, my existence and my experiences. And in giving, I find a renewed sense of purpose.

Yet as my real world drastically shrinks, my condition has opened up new friendships and renewed old people.

PRIVILEGE IN CRISIS

For me, this is how you can be a companion to someone in their final stages of life: Use your potential to be present, your capacity for risk, and your product of time to develop deeper and more important connections. Do as much as you can to perform the smallest acts of compassion.

I am aware that you may be experiencing difficulty or facing your own challenges, friends who have n’t had the ability to reach out. I’m hoping you’ll get past them, and I’m eager to see you immediately. &nbsp,

What ultimately things may just be how seriously we allow ourselves to interact with one another. I have strong social networks, the ability to manage high-quality care, and the ability to transition from a simple life function to a more fulfilling existence while I can.

May we all have the chance to discover the tremendous facts that giving is what living is actually doing.

Yeo Whee Jim has published his second collection of poetry, Itinerary. The Motor Neurone Disease Association of Singapore received gross proceeds from book profits.