LEARNING TO LET THINGS GO
I decided that something would have to change to make me feel like me again.
The first step: I tried to define my job description as a mom. My JD went along the lines of “to strategise, plan, budget, procure, oversee and execute all matters regarding the home and children”.
It already felt impossible.
So, I decided instead to focus on behaviours instead of actual responsibilities.
I realised that I was exhausted because I had been anticipating problems and jumping into situations that I had originally delegated.
I was also redoing tasks that had not been performed to my expectations. Essentially, I had been working all the time and but not getting tasks completed because my attention had been all over the place.
So, I decided that if my husband were to bring one child out of the house, I would not drop everything on hand to pack for them. This meant that if they were to forget to bring anything, they’d just have to handle the consequences.
Also, I stopped myself from re-washing milk bottles with dried crusts in crevices because the effort to do that could be spent on other important tasks.